A minor flap flared
this week over the activities of a religious educational NGO in the
Israeli secular school system. The controversy provides us with a
fascinating and troubling insight into religious-secular relations in
this country.
The "Am Yisrael Echad"
("One People of Israel") NGO was accused by Haaretz's education
correspondent of proffering sex education with a traditional bent in
secular high schools. Basing itself on the complaint of a parent, a
Haaretz editorial even demanded that the students be "protected" from
the NGO's "religious indoctrination."
Without knowing a thing
about Am Yisrael Echad or the actual content of its educational
programming, the critics accused the NGO of proselytizing and pushing a
worldview that is misogynist and "excludes women from the public
sphere."
None of the overheated
critics bothered to check with the secular school principal involved, or
with the school's extracurricular activities educational director, to
ask why the NGO was hired to offer programming in its classrooms or what
school officials thought of Am Yisrael Echad's messaging and
effectiveness.
Nor did the critics
bother to ask themselves why 70 secular principals across the country
have, out of free choice, invited this specific NGO into their schools
to provide more than 5,000 hours of teaching time. This includes
top-notch schools in Ashdod, Kfar Rupin, Kfar Saba, Maagan Michael, Nes
Ziona, Omer, Raanana, Rehovot, Rishon Lezion, Rosh Haayin, Tel Aviv,
Yavne and more.
Since I have proudly served on the board of Am Yisrael Echad for a dozen years, I'll tell you why it is such a popular choice.
Many secular school
educators feel that, despite the religious-secular divide (or because of
it), their students ought to be getting a smidgeon of exposure to basic
Jewish values and rituals. They know that many of the ills in Israeli
society are sourced in a breakdown of values, and are not afraid to
admit that Jewish civilization and traditions are part of the answer in
repairing our society.
They furthermore know,
through 17 years of experience, that Am Yisrael Echad can provide their
junior and high school students with informal educational programming in
Jewish heritage and Zionist values that is exciting, fun, religiously
profound, intellectually rigorous, non-judgmental and embracing of all
Jews.
The success of the
organization's programming is evidenced by the growing demand for its
services -- demand that percolates naturally by word-of-mouth and comes
from involved, discerning and caring secular school principals. They
appreciate its educational units on a range of topics like good
citizenship, giving and altruism, personal accountability and the power
of forgiveness, leadership, tolerance, acceptance of strangers,
teen-adult tensions, personal fulfillment vs. communal commitment,
social involvement, ethical behavior on social networks, addiction and
violence, man and nature, heroism and freedom, decision-making, heroic
Jewish figures of the past, the significance of Jewish history and
national memory, Jewish holidays, prayer and individualism, and more.
In each unit, educators
show how Jewish sources, texts, philosophies and traditions offer
relevant and fascinating perspectives on the societal or moral question
under discussion.
The organization also
runs very popular "Synagogue Days," in which secular students and their
teachers venture (often for the first time in their lives) into a
synagogue, to learn about important Jewish traditions and basic concepts
of peoplehood. Thousands also participate in its early fall Selichot
Tours of Jerusalem's Old City and the Western Wall.
And yes, the NGO has an
educational unit on "Him and Her" in Jewish tradition. But unlike the
raw and explicit "how to" sex education offered in Israeli schools to
15-yea-olds, the organization prefers to teach about relationships. The
"Him and Her" seminar focuses on aloneness and companionship, support
vs. dependency, sensitive vs. assertive communications, verbal and
physical violence, honesty and respect in love relationships, and the
value of commitment.
In doing so, it offers
students a refreshingly unique perspective on boy-girl relations in the
modern world. In fact, it was asked to develop this unit by several
secular junior and high school principals. They felt the need to provide
students with guidance on male-female teenage relationships, and
believed that grounding an exploration of this topic in Jewish sources
and wisdom would be useful.
The overwrought parent
who went screaming to Haaretz about the organization's "Him and Her"
unit complained that, when asked by a student, the facilitator admitted
that he indeed was "shomer negiyah," meaning that he abides by the
religious prohibition against unmarried boys and girls touching each
other. "What does observing negiyah have to do with secular children,
who are anyway drenched in pornography?" the parent exploded.
To this upset parent I
have several responses. First, if that's the toughest indictment of the
program you can come up with -- that's not so terrible. Obviously, the
young secular pupil who asked about negiyah was interested enough by the
discussion of healthy relationships and curious enough about the
non-modern religious practice of avoiding negiyah -- to ask for an
explanation. The informal education class was a good place for this to
be aired, even though the program does not at all reference or promote
Halachic rules of family purity.
Second, how can we ever
talk to youth about cultural-religious perspectives different from
their own, if not in such an open and adamantly non-proselytizing
setting? Nobody was recruiting for religion and nobody was creating an
ecstatic environment designed to get kids to drink Orthodox Kool Aid.
Third, I suggest that
this parent take a good look at this week's newspaper stories about gang
rape among students and teen prostitution rings. Perhaps he/she should
ask any Israeli family doctor just how many 15-year-old patients are
seen a week for contraception and abortion issues. Then, consider again
the classroom discussion on the value of healthy and stable love
relationships and the destructive impact of pornography on real
relationship building -- a discussion that might also spark curiosity
about less teenage touching. Is this really such a bad thing?
By synthesizing tradition with
modernity through informal educational programming in Jewish heritage
and Zionist values -- seminars that are exciting, fun, religiously
profound, intellectually rigorous, non-judgmental and embracing of all
Jews -- Am Yisrael Echad encourages development of an Israeli society
that is more in tune with its roots, and is thus more united. Its work
must not be derailed by the fearful and the narrow-minded.
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