Monday, May 05, 2014

On Yom Hazikaron, a show of universal solidarity


US delegation of widows & orphans visits Israel, hosted by Israeli counterparts who say it is "a unique opportunity to meet people from another part of the world with something in common."

US delegation of widows and Orphans at Yad Vashem
US delegation of widows and Orphans at Yad Vashem Photo: COURTESY OF IDFWO
Traci Voelke was a mother of two to Andrew, 10, and Ben, 8, when her husband, Major Paul C. Voelke was killed in the line of duty in Afghanistan in June 2012.

“He was on his fifth deployment and second in Afghanistan – he also served in Iraq and Kosovo,” Voelke told The Jerusalem Post on Sunday. “He was hit by a mine-resistant ambush protected (MRAP) vehicle in Masir Sharif [a major city in the North of Afghanistan] while conducting a routine safety inspection,” she said.

Traci and Paul were high school sweethearts. He attended West Point, an elite military academy in New York and then received a Master’s degree at Georgetown, while she attended the University of Maryland and pursued a career as a lawyer. The family moved around the United States due to Paul's military career and lived on six different army bases before he was killed. Following his death, Traci and her two sons relocated to Washington D.C., where they reside today.

Traci and her son Andrew, along with five other families arrived in Israel last week ahead of Yom Hazikaron, as part of an eight day program coordinated by Tragedy Assistance Programs for Survivors (TAPS) and the Israeli Defense Forces Widows and Orphans Organization (IDFWO), who hosted the families.
“My son and I both wanted to visit Israel and I thought this trip would be a nice way to combine his father’s experience in the military with his Jewish heritage and with our American experience,” said Voelke.
As part of their trip to Israel, the families toured Jerusalem, the Dead Sea, Masada, Yad Vashem, and an IDF military base in Palmachim, south of Tel Aviv. In addition, the American families spent three nights with Israeli hosts, widows and orphans of the IDF.
“We stayed with a family who lost their father in a Palestinian terror attack and for Andrew he takes comfort in the fact that there are children here that have experienced what he experienced with the loss of his father,” said Voelke.
“The mother wrote a book about her experience, and I was reading it in English and realized that so many of the things she experienced are the same emotions and processes that I went through in the US – the struggles she faces every day are the same as mine – being a single parent, that the children have good days and bad days with the loss of their dad; and so even though our children didn’t speak the same language they still have common life experiences from around the world,” she added.
Noa Ben Zeev, along with her two children Niv, 16 and Shira, 13 hosted one of the American families – Becky, 37 along with her daughter Nikki, 19 who lost their husband and father in a vehicle accident in Iraq in 2008.
“We heard about the delegation that was coming and we offered to host them - it felt very natural to host them - and it seemed like an interesting and unique opportunity to meet people from another part of the world with something in common,” said Noa Ben Zeev, an IDF widow.
Ben Zeev lost her husband Gadi, then 36 years-old, ten years ago to Leukemia while he was in the service of the Prime Minister’s Office.
“With regards to the loss the connection is almost immediate,” said Ben Zeev.
“This human meeting gave us the opportunity to gain an in depth connection, to listen to one another and to tell them what we are going through - and there is something very powerful about universal solidarity,” she said.
Ben Zeev explained that her family is very involved with the IDFWO through the activities of her children and their participation in the OTZMA camps programs, run by the IDFWO. Every Hanukka, Passover and Succot since 2011, hundreds of children from all over the country who have lost a parent in the IDF get together through the OTZMA camp program to participate in fun filled activities and to celebrate the holidays together. In addition, the OTZMA runs a summer camp program in the US, which, in cooperation with TAPS, brings Israeli orphans for a 25 day tour of the US, and introduces them to American counterparts.
“Shira spent last summer at the US tour for her Bat Mitzvah and she met US children – it was a very significant and beneficial visit for her,” recalled Ben Zeev.
“We gather strength from one another and the OTZMA camps are a very supportive place where the children can ‘relax’ from the everyday noise about their father – the pity, the whispers, the fear that people are talking about their circumstances,” she said.
According to Shlomi Nahumson, Director of Youth Programs at the IDFWO, the two organizations began their cooperation through the OTZMA summer camp in the US and have now expanded this cooperation to bring the US delegation to Israel.
“We wanted to give the children a universal aspect – to show that there are other children around the world who identify with them,” said Nahumson, “and the chemistry between the children was immediate, despite the language gap.”
“I hope this is a tradition that will continue and will bring about a new friendship, we are very lucky that we found a very fruitful cooperation with TAPS,” he added.
On Sunday evening, the eve of Yom Hazikaron, the families attended the National Ceremony at the Western Wall and on Monday will lay a wreath at the Armored Corps Remembrance Ceremony in Latrun in honor of Yom Hazikaron.
“The principles that Israeli soldiers fight for are the same as US soldiers – we want to live in a free country and practice our culture and religions and our way of life independently. I appreciate the sacrifice and understand why it was made and I am hopeful for future,” said Voelke.

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